Dating with cute Dutch chick

Living together and still looking for a fuck buddy? Yes, that's right. The sex with my boyfriend is decent, but I want more. I'd like to go to a swingers club, have sex in a pool or in the woods, maybe try a threesome with a man or a woman, and I'm curious about soft SM. These are all things my boyfriend doesn't want to know about, so I've taken the plunge and hope to find someone here who might already have experience with it or wants to explore it with me. Discretion is essential, and I can't host myself.